just saying...

OK, this is just common knowledge. 
Don't take a knife (or spoon) to a gun fight...you will not win.  Plain & simple. 

the wooden spoon

Always knock on wood.  Not for luck, but to make sure its strong, treated & not crumbling apart.  Anything you build - relationships, character, a house - has to be strong & treated right.  When you have friendships & loved ones, the strong will survive. If you build others up with encouraging words & are the best you can be towards them, they will stay strong. In return, you'll also benefit from having a great friend &/or relative. Same with your home. Treat it well, paint it, clean it.  Ya know, regular maintenance. It will last you a life time :)

Spoon me

Be kind to others. That's it. Nothing else.  Just be kind, it will take you far. PROMISE!! 
What's that saying?  " ...its easier to get bee's with honey".  Yeah, something like that.  A simple 'hello' to someone, or open a door while walking into a store. Help the elderly lady to her car (especially in this heat)  I'm not saying to go overboard with butt kissing, just be kind.  
*side note for our partners, other half, what have you....  Butt kissing is allowed to your better half.  As a matter of fact, it is highly encouraged & yes, go overboard!

Sweat the small stuff

Yes, sweat the small stuff!  Who ever said "don't", had never met a mosquito, or better yet, a spider! I know they are creatures of this world, but, OH MY GOSH.  I'll take a lizard, snake or alligator any day. Something as small as a spider can take down a 200 lb man, well thats scary. Same thing for life.  There may be that one huge thing that someone did, that really hurt you. Did you make it through? You stood strong, right?  More then likely, you got over it.  Ok, now what about the small things that hurt you. The ones that are around all the time? Just waiting in corners, under the bed, in the shower? I'm thinking of spiders again, but yeah, those are the things that hurt over & over.  Most the time you cant see them coming, then all of a sudden, its on you.  Those are the people you don't want in your life.  You don't want the big mean ones either, but at least you can see them coming.  Keep the people out, who pick, pick, pick. Eventually, they will wear you down, mentally, physically & emotionally, or they will kill you...   

what are you doing with your spoon?

I've gone through life wondering who writes the books, that everyone flocks to, so their life seems important.  Yes, I know their names, well some of them, but WHO are they? Doctors, self-help gurus, moms, dads, murders, thieves? What makes them better then me? Better then the 'run of the mill' chick from a little town in the south?  We all live looking for the next Oprah to help us through a crisis, pain, love lost, but in reality, we can be our own Oprah (or Dr Phil) for our fella' friends.  You only become who you want to be. Yes, that sounds so blah, but it is true.  WAIT!! Don't stop reading now, hear me out! Life is what you make it. I know some people are born with a silver spoon in their mouths & some are born without a spoon at all.  That doesn't matter. The ones with the spoon usually have a head start, but typically decide the spoon isn't enough. They want more.  So guess what? When they drop that spoon, it gives you a chance to retrieve it. Take that spoon & do something with it!  

*talking about spoons has made me hungry. you can go get a snack too*.

Ok. Back to what I was saying. Have you ever looked at a spoon? I mean really check it out? There's tons of stuff to do with a spoon. Who cares if its silver- aren't most stainless steal anyways?

The obvious, eat (which you should have done by now) dig, stir, give meds, spank your kids~wooden of course...kidding...kidding.  Anyways, the spoon reflects, oh yeah, they are mirrors too. Ok, they reflect us as people.  We are in the world, no matter what, so what we decide to do with our life is up to us.  There are so many possibilities for us. Most of us only choose to do what is easy. We don't think 'outside the spoon'. 

So, the point of this blog is my way of using my spoon for something different. Hope you enjoy.  If not, who cares!! Go read a book written by Oprah. 


Tiffani Foster

This is not a self help blog

Ok, to start off, this is NOT some type of self-help writing, or a blog on how to learn a kind of love sign or language. Im not gonna tell you to go eat, love or pray.  Well, I suggest you do those, but thats not for me to tell you when or how. That's for you to decide. Eat when you wanna, love only when you wanna & pray.  That's it, just Pray. 
These post will only be my own feelings. Yep, just lil' ole me & maybe a few of my close participants, that I choose to involve. Its my own feelings, thoughts & sometimes rants that I'm putting out there. That's it, nothing more, nothing less. 


Tiffani E. Foster